Can a single woman become a foster parent
I love talking to people about foster care. Some concerns are easy to clear up. Is there a role for them in the foster care system? I love that I have friends who are asking this question. I love their hearts and the compassion they show for kids who need them.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Erin's Story - Foster Parenting as a single woman - A Door of Hope Tampa Bay
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I love talking to people about foster care. Some concerns are easy to clear up. Is there a role for them in the foster care system? I love that I have friends who are asking this question. I love their hearts and the compassion they show for kids who need them. So here are my thoughts on single people as foster parents. The ideal vs.
The ideal for every child is that they are able to be raised by their biological parents. Every option after that is less than ideal, but a necessary solution. If not their family, than by a loving, married couple who can make a long-term commitment to them. If not with a married couple, than by a single person.
When we were adopting our son in West Africa the woman who ran the orphanage talked to us about why they were the only orphanage that allowed single women to adopt. These single women were adopting kids who were considered unadoptable because of their medical needs or age. Their options were a single mother or spending the rest of their lives in an institution.
I have a tremendous amount of respect for the women who took on that challenge. I know this line of reasoning can feel offensive. There is a NEED for single people to foster. If you had been abused at the hands of men, you might have a really difficult time living with one.
In which case, a single mom might be best for you. This girl felt so much love from her foster mom and the foster sisters in that house and was able to experience healing. There is definitely a need and a role for the single foster parent in the system.
Evaluate your resources. Can you do that? And I say the same thing to couples pursuing foster care who are struggling with infertility. I think this becomes even more crucial when you are a single person involved in foster care. If a child needs to be in a home with a single person, then we should be able to offer them one. An older child is going to need help with homework. A child with medical needs is going to have lots of doctor appointments.
Nobody wins when we take on more than we can handle. Enlist the support of your community. As you think through the challenges and blessings of foster care, talk to your community— your friends, your extended family, your church. It is good to find out how supportive they are of you taking this on and let them know what kind of help you may need from them. I think this is crucial for every foster parent, but especially for the single foster parent who may have times where an extra set of hands is necessary.
Find out who is willing to get background checked and do respite care when you need it, who can help with carpooling, who will be your parenting mentor, who can go with you to court. Nobody should go this alone.
Foster parenting is a rough path, but it is incredibly rewarding. Kids need homes with stability, consistency and love. You just might be the one to provide it. Not as a substitute for marriage and bio children but because fostering is close to my heart and I felt God was calling me to it. I only foster babies and I only do short-term fostercare. For me to choose to keep these little ones I would effectively be choosing fatherlessness for them.
It is really, really hard to do this alone. Every single night without sleep, with no breaks and no-one else to help with the load. However, there is nothing else in this world that I would do instead. I love this life, this work. It is a privilege to foster.
I spent many years thinking it was impossible for me because of my singleness and I regret now that I wasted so much time. Thanks for sharing this post!! Oh Kate, I want to hug you! Thank you so much for investing in these kids in such a beautiful and selfless way. And thank you for the realistic picture of what this is like from your perspective. Today you are my hero. Incredible, Kate!
I am cheering you on from the heartland of the US. Praise God for the work you do! Your post just touched my heart so much. I ended up back with my bio-mom, she has a mental illness which is why they took me from her for some time as an infant. My heart. Thank you so much for sharing and thank you so much for helping people like myself.
Can I email you? I too am a single mother doing foster care. Being a foster parent is hard, single, married or otherwise. If someone has the love to give and resources to care for a child, their marital status should not be a factor. The child I currently have was in a 2 parent home with several other children, and since coming into my home she has been able to stop all therapies she was receiving prior and is flourishing.
She is getting quality 1 on 1 time that she desperately needed…. Mikel, there is difficulty in talking about the theoretical when each situation is unique. For other kids, they are going to be best served in a two parent family. Every family has their strengths and they need to analyze what those are and commit themselves to taking the kids they are best qualified to serve. It is much more about knowing yourself and your abilities and taking kids you can help.
It sounds like you have done that and I commend you for it. That makes no sense at all. A stable environment with a knowledgeable individual is key. Also the ability to meet the needs of the child…. Resources are limited to say the least… If a child is thriving in your care then that is a beautiful, wonderful thing. We need more people like you! Your marital status is irrelevant clearly! I am a single foster and adoptive mom. Crazy, sometimes ridiculously hard. I believe one hundred percent that my daughter is supposed to be part of my family.
My village has been an amazing support. But the reality is, there are kids in my community that need a safe place for a little while, or a long while and I can help.
After meeting those real, live children, no one has broached that topic again. My advice for potential foster parents married, single, whatever … we need you. If you feel called, go for it! Well done, Shannon.
This post touched my heart. I have been praying to the Lord for guidance on this because it is something I want to do. I do have a very supportive family who has told me that they would definitely help me when I needed it and would help me welcome the child into our lives as our own. My father worked for Foster Care in the State of Florida for years and tells me I would not have a problem doing this.
I am educated, have a degree, and have been a tax accountant for years. I can provide a stable home environment and have lots of family surrounding me. I am also a Christian and church goer. Hearing you say that you believe there is a need for me just made my morning. Thank you. This is great! I think your message and others is being heard loud and clear! Jay, feel free to contact me at amusingmaralee gmail.
I want to foster children. I want to adopt children.
Fostering as a Single Woman
Not a day goes by without someone asking how I decided to be a foster mom. Maybe the thought has crossed your mind, or someone in your community has brought it up. Is that crazy?
The nightmares started immediately: I dream I'm sleeping soundly and awake to a pounding on the door so loud it rattles the walls and renders the white-noise machine useless. One caseworker is carrying an oversize black duffel bag and starts filling it with toys and clothes and diapers while the other picks up the baby and walks out the door. They say nothing to me: They simply arrive, depart and break my world. I chase them down the street, screaming after them that they forgot Bear-Bear, the brilliantly named bigger-than-the-baby stuffed animal.
I’m Single. Can I Become a Foster Parent?
Perhaps you are thinking about becoming a foster parent but you are not sure if you could do it or not. You might be surprised to find out that you are eligible after all. The requirements are not all that restrictive per se, however, there are a lot of rules and policies to follow once you are licensed as a foster parent. There are often misconceptions about who can become a foster parent. Some people assume that you have to be a 30 something year old, married, wealthy couple who own a large home and fancy car to care for foster children. Reality is that foster parents are made up of people from all different walks of life. There are many different people from different families, backgrounds, careers, gender, race, marital status, and life situations that choose to be foster parents. The laws vary somewhat from state to state, but here is a list of general guidelines to help you determine if you might meet the eligibility requirements or not. You will also want to verify with your local county or agency before you proceed as some agencies may have additional standards.
“I’m considering fostering, but I’m single.”
While the old myth that foster families need the old-fashioned traditional family unit of mother and father persists, the reality is that single foster parents are eagerly sought after. Becoming a foster parent is one of the most satisfying and rewarding things you can do. Yes — you can foster as a single parent. The main requirements for fostering are that you are in good health, your home has a spare room for a child or young person, and that you can pass a thorough DBS check. Because you are considering being a foster carer, chances are good that you have a patient, caring, and compassionate personality.
Less than two years ago, Elizabeth Friedland was a single, childless woman focused on her career. Everything changed one night in when Friedland decided to become a foster mother to an infant. The commitment, sacrifice, and responsibility scared me and, honestly, still does.
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